{"id":2317,"date":"2015-06-22T15:15:47","date_gmt":"2015-06-22T15:15:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/?p=2317"},"modified":"2015-09-17T17:16:18","modified_gmt":"2015-09-17T17:16:18","slug":"can-collaboration-work","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/can-collaboration-work\/","title":{"rendered":"Can Collaboration Work?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>We enter into collaborations assuming we\u2019ll succeed as teamwork partners. Yet we rarely achieve true partnership:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Because we listen uniquely and through <a href=\"http:\/\/click.icptrack.com\/icp\/relay.php?r=27746356&amp;msgid=685398&amp;act=DL0L&amp;c=193273&amp;destination=http%3A%2F%2Fdidihearyou.com%2F\" target=\"_blank\">biased filters <\/a>we sometimes mistakenly presume intent or misconstrue what\u2019s been said and agreed upon. Problem: Flawed assumptions, wasted time and relationship capital, and restricted scope.<\/li>\n<li>There is often not enough diversity to enable maximum creativity and unrestricted solution options. Problem: Similar ideas and options constrain possibility and maintain the <a href=\"http:\/\/click.icptrack.com\/icp\/relay.php?r=27746356&amp;msgid=685398&amp;act=DL0L&amp;c=193273&amp;destination=http%3A%2F%2Fsharondrewmorgen.com%2Fdiversity-and-bias-how-to-hear-different-people-differently%2F\" target=\"_blank\">status quo<\/a>.<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/click.icptrack.com\/icp\/relay.php?r=27746356&amp;msgid=685398&amp;act=DL0L&amp;c=193273&amp;destination=http%3A%2F%2Fsharondrewmorgen.com%2Fmeetings-the-purpose-the-pain-the-possibility%2F\" target=\"_blank\">Agendas<\/a> and goals are often established with less than the full set of essential participants. Problem: Hidden agendas and inadequate preparation.<\/li>\n<li>Not all vital collaboration partners are present. Problem: Incomplete input and limited output.<\/li>\n<li>Collaborators often enter with specific (albeit unconscious) goals and limited tolerance for risk. Problem: Restricted possibility and inspiration.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>As a result, we end up with little real change, spend time waiting for takeaways that don\u2019t occur, expend considerable relationship capital, or overlook the full range of possibilities.<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Biased communication. After spending 3 years researching and writing a <a href=\"http:\/\/click.icptrack.com\/icp\/relay.php?r=27746356&amp;msgid=685398&amp;act=DL0L&amp;c=193273&amp;destination=http%3A%2F%2Fdidihearyou.com%2F\" target=\"_blank\">book<\/a> on the gap between what\u2019s said and what\u2019s heard, I now appreciate it\u2019s nearly impossible for collaboration partners to all walk away with the same understanding. Therefore, 1. Tape each session. 2. Get group agreement on what\u2019s been said and action items before moving on to the next topic.<\/li>\n<li>Gender, age, and ethnic diversity are necessary. Consider your goal. Think about who you might invite to offer different perspectives. Invite Troublemakers.<\/li>\n<li>Make sure everyone has access to the agenda well before the meeting. There can be no hidden agendas; too much is lost that ends up being problematic later on.<\/li>\n<li>Everyone must attend meetings. If anyone can\u2019t come to the meeting, cancel it or there will be a voice, an idea, an annoyance missing that would counteract the reasons underlying the collaboration. Anyone who will touch the final solution must be present to move forward or there will be fallout, sabotage, and resistance: there is no way to compensate (as per creativity or consensus) once a meeting is held with folks missing.<\/li>\n<li>No restrictions. Collaborators must enter with no assumptions. Collaboration means you either meld disparate ideas, or cultivate something new among you that\u2019s never existed.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>We all bring our natural biases and assumptions to the collaboration table, thereby restricting possibilities. Yet until we confront, challenge, and defy the status quo with new thinking, there can\u2019t be change. And that\u2019s the problem: Our results are in direct proportion to our ability to override our biases and assumptions.<\/p>\n<div>\n<p>BIAS RESTRICTS COLLABORATION<\/p>\n<p>Since researching and writing my new book \u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/click.icptrack.com\/icp\/relay.php?r=27746356&amp;msgid=685398&amp;act=DL0L&amp;c=193273&amp;destination=http%3A%2F%2Fdidihearyou.com%2Fread\" target=\"_blank\">What? Did you really say what I think I heard?<\/a>,\u00a0I have realized it\u2019s pretty impossible to accurately comprehend what others mean to convey. Here\u2019s a summary of what I learned:<\/p>\n<p>Not only do our eyes merely take in light that our brains then translate (through our filters uniquely developed since birth) into what we think we see, our ears merely take in sound that our brains then translate (through our filters) into what we think others mean \u2013 hence we each experience the world uniquely, through our personal translations. To make it truly pernicious, our brains only offer us the translation itself: we never know how far from the Truth we are, potentially causing misplaced resistance and misinterpretation.<\/p>\n<p>For effective collaborations, we must move beyond our filters to hear others without bias during meetings:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Notice resistance, feelings, annoyances, or immediate negativity the moment it happens and ask yourself: How can I hear what\u2019s just been said in a different way?<\/li>\n<li>Since you don\u2019t actually know if what you think you\u2019ve heard is accurate, tell your collaboration partners what you think you heard and ask them if they heard the same thing.<\/li>\n<li>Make sure there are no strong feelings left unsaid after each discussion topic.<\/li>\n<li>At the start of a session, everyone must agree to goals\/outcomes for each topic; as each topic is completed, everyone must agree on action items that will match the original goals. Everyone.<\/li>\n<li>At the end of the session, agree to all action items and take-aways. Do a review of what\u2019s been accomplished according to original goals. Ask if anyone else needs to be included for the next session.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>By minimizing biases, by including a full range of thought-partners, and by checking in with the other collaborators as to what\u2019s been said and heard, it\u2019s possible to form effective collaborations. Otherwise, we\u2019re merely doing more of the same.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">_____________________<\/p>\n<p>Sharon Drew will not longer be writing original content or sending out original articles. She will regularly change out articles from her library of 1500 published articles on sales, Buying Facilitation\u00ae, change, listening, collaboration, and decision making. You can still purchase her learning products on\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/click.icptrack.com\/icp\/relay.php?r=27746356&amp;msgid=685828&amp;act=DL0L&amp;c=193273&amp;destination=http%3A%2F%2Fbuyingfacilitation.com%2Fblog%2Fstore%2F\" target=\"_blank\">Buying Facilitation\u00ae<\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/click.icptrack.com\/icp\/relay.php?r=27746356&amp;msgid=685828&amp;act=DL0L&amp;c=193273&amp;destination=http%3A%2F%2Fdidihearyou.com%2Flearning-tools%2Fassessments\" target=\"_blank\">hearing others<\/a>\u00a0without bias. Should you wish to reach Sharon Drew for coaching, training, consulting, or speaking, she can be reached at\u00a0<a href=\"mailto:sharondrew@sharondrewmorgen.com\" target=\"_blank\">sharondrew@<wbr \/>sharondrewmorgen.com<\/a>\u00a0or\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/click.icptrack.com\/icp\/relay.php?r=27746356&amp;msgid=685828&amp;act=DL0L&amp;c=193273&amp;destination=denied%3Atel%3A512%2520457%25200246\" target=\"_blank\">512 457 0246<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Visit my websites: <a href=\"http:\/\/click.icptrack.com\/icp\/relay.php?r=27746356&amp;msgid=685828&amp;act=DL0L&amp;c=193273&amp;destination=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.sharondrewmorgen.com\" target=\"_blank\">www.sharondrewmorgen.com<\/a> and <a href=\"http:\/\/click.icptrack.com\/icp\/relay.php?r=27746356&amp;msgid=685828&amp;act=DL0L&amp;c=193273&amp;destination=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.didihearyou.com\" target=\"_blank\">www.didihearyou.com<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We enter into collaborations assuming we\u2019ll succeed as teamwork partners. Yet we rarely achieve true partnership: Because we listen uniquely and through biased filters we sometimes mistakenly presume intent or misconstrue what\u2019s been said and agreed upon. Problem: Flawed assumptions, wasted time and relationship capital, and restricted scope. There is often not enough diversity to [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[20,28,29,17],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v23.5 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Can Collaboration Work? - buyingfacilitation.com\/blog<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/can-collaboration-work\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Can Collaboration Work? - buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"We enter into collaborations assuming we\u2019ll succeed as teamwork partners. Yet we rarely achieve true partnership: Because we listen uniquely and through biased filters we sometimes mistakenly presume intent or misconstrue what\u2019s been said and agreed upon. Problem: Flawed assumptions, wasted time and relationship capital, and restricted scope. There is often not enough diversity to [&hellip;]\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/can-collaboration-work\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2015-06-22T15:15:47+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2015-09-17T17:16:18+00:00\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Sharon Drew\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:creator\" content=\"@sharondrew\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:site\" content=\"@sharondrew\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"Sharon Drew\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"4 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/can-collaboration-work\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/can-collaboration-work\/\",\"name\":\"Can Collaboration Work? - buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/#website\"},\"datePublished\":\"2015-06-22T15:15:47+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2015-09-17T17:16:18+00:00\",\"author\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/856fb80fa68ceae6a66b0b9c056fd11c\"},\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/can-collaboration-work\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/can-collaboration-work\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/can-collaboration-work\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Home\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"Can Collaboration Work?\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/\",\"name\":\"buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\",\"description\":\"Buying Facilitation\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":{\"@type\":\"PropertyValueSpecification\",\"valueRequired\":true,\"valueName\":\"search_term_string\"}}],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":\"Person\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/856fb80fa68ceae6a66b0b9c056fd11c\",\"name\":\"Sharon Drew\",\"image\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/59a9d20a04fd5ed42ae52e76c9726cd5?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/59a9d20a04fd5ed42ae52e76c9726cd5?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"caption\":\"Sharon Drew\"},\"url\":\"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/author\/sharon-drew\/\"}]}<\/script>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"Can Collaboration Work? - buyingfacilitation.com\/blog","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/can-collaboration-work\/","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"Can Collaboration Work? - buyingfacilitation.com\/blog","og_description":"We enter into collaborations assuming we\u2019ll succeed as teamwork partners. Yet we rarely achieve true partnership: Because we listen uniquely and through biased filters we sometimes mistakenly presume intent or misconstrue what\u2019s been said and agreed upon. Problem: Flawed assumptions, wasted time and relationship capital, and restricted scope. There is often not enough diversity to [&hellip;]","og_url":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/can-collaboration-work\/","og_site_name":"buyingfacilitation.com\/blog","article_published_time":"2015-06-22T15:15:47+00:00","article_modified_time":"2015-09-17T17:16:18+00:00","author":"Sharon Drew","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_creator":"@sharondrew","twitter_site":"@sharondrew","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"Sharon Drew","Est. reading time":"4 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/can-collaboration-work\/","url":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/can-collaboration-work\/","name":"Can Collaboration Work? - buyingfacilitation.com\/blog","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/#website"},"datePublished":"2015-06-22T15:15:47+00:00","dateModified":"2015-09-17T17:16:18+00:00","author":{"@id":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/856fb80fa68ceae6a66b0b9c056fd11c"},"breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/can-collaboration-work\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/can-collaboration-work\/"]}]},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/can-collaboration-work\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"Can Collaboration Work?"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/#website","url":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/","name":"buyingfacilitation.com\/blog","description":"Buying Facilitation","potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/856fb80fa68ceae6a66b0b9c056fd11c","name":"Sharon Drew","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/59a9d20a04fd5ed42ae52e76c9726cd5?s=96&d=mm&r=g","contentUrl":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/59a9d20a04fd5ed42ae52e76c9726cd5?s=96&d=mm&r=g","caption":"Sharon Drew"},"url":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/author\/sharon-drew\/"}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2317"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2317"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2317\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2448,"href":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2317\/revisions\/2448"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2317"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2317"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/buyingfacilitation.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2317"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}